Things To Remember When Facing An Assailant, Part 2

Every man has had a mother, sister or wife who has been told all her life that the way to get away from an attacker is to kick him in the groin. This can be an affective move if you are lucky. Unfortunately every man expects that as the first defensive move from a woman. If you can indeed get a good solid knee strike to the man’s testicles, take it. Beware of overconfidence though. Hollywood (and your mother) will say the villain in this story will grab his groin, roll his eyes upward, give a deathlike groan and hit the ground like a stone. From personal experience I can tell you this doesn’t always occur, so once again, don’t let this be your only line of defense.

There is a great thing about a groin kick though; most women assailants are less likely to expect it. Regardless of what many may believe, a kick between the legs is painful to women as well as men.

When you are attempting to defend yourself, don’t shut your eyes. This is a common mistake that occurs when someone is hitting, kicking or blocking. Keep them open and give a sharp “Kiap,” “Hiya,” or “NO” for each technique you do. This will focus your power into the technique, and if you are lucky, it will startle the assailant.

During the self-defense and rape prevention seminars my husband and I give, it never ceases to amaze me how many women have difficulty saying the word “No” with any force for feeling. Some have a hard time just saying the word, others sound like a squashed mouse and others say it loud enough to be heard, but with a questionable inflection. No is a simple word that all women, children and men should be able to say with confidence. Regardless of what we were taught as children, each and every one of us has the right to say no to unwanted touch, contact or interaction. Everyone needs to be learn how to say it with feeling regardless of who we are saying it to, be it the drunk who wants to dance at a bar or the grandfather who is free with his hands while giving children a hug.

If you carry any form of weapon be it a handgun, knife or pepper spray, remember it will do you absolutely no good buried in the bottom of a purse, left on a counter or hidden in a drawer at home. They will also be useless if you are unfamiliar with their use. Practice drawing and using these items until it becomes second nature and you can become affective with them without conscious thought.

When walking to your car, get into the habit of carrying your keys in your strong hand. Keys can make an exceptionally affective weapon when used against an attacker’s face or throat. Having them already out also cuts down the time you are vulnerable. Standing beside a car, fumbling in a purse, hunting for your keys will distract your attention and can make you easy prey for an attacker to quickly take you unawares.

Risks are a daily part of living whether we are crossing a busy street, driving on the freeway or walking across a tiled bathroom floor with wet feet.

We all take unnecessary risks each and every day while assuming nothing will happen to us while we go about our daily routines. By being aware of our surroundings and taking simple precautionary steps, we may not be able to totally eradicate the risks but at least we can lower the chances of becoming a victim.